Selecting your music is just as important as finding the perfect caterer for your wedding. With so many choices today, setting the mood for a perfect day would seem an easy task. Maybe a live band, a DJ, a string quartet, or even doing it yourself with your own selections using an iPod, what ever you choose just remember that the songs are a huge element for setting the mood and pace of your wedding day.
Always remember to select music that you identify with and that best reflects your feelings and personality, music that you enjoy dancing to. After years of planning weddings one thing I know for sure is if the Bride and Groom are dancing and having a good time, everyone else will follow. Avoid the pitfalls of so many weddings when you allow your DJ to select the music for you. Your guest will thank you later for not having your DJ play the every Saturday night wedding songs such as "Brick House" or my least favorite "I Will Survive".
Some of the things you might want to consider when choosing your wedding songs:
- Remember that you will need to select music for the wedding ceremony, the cocktail hour or pre-reception drinks party and the reception.
- If your wedding has a specific theme (for example Mexican, Moroccan, Asian or Italian) you should choose music to match.
- If you are selecting music for your first dance than really think carefully about your choice. This song should represent both of you. Reading the lyrics together will help you identify if it is the right song for you. You can easily type in a song on your web browser and have lyrics instantly. My recommendation is to not choose songs that are "in" or "trendy". Choose a song that is timeless and that you both can enjoy for years to come.
- When selecting music for your ceremony make sure to talk to your officiant. In most Church ceremonies there are strict guidelines about which wedding songs can be used during your ceremony. It’s important to discuss this with them at an early stage to agree which songs will be used at your wedding. For the most part your wedding coordinator can guide you through this process.
- There are times when you may want to choose music to accommodate a guest while this is a nice gesture, remember that there are other guests as well. Allowing your DJ to take guest request could result in a mood change during your reception.
- If you do not have a professional wedding planner plotting out your wedding day songs some things to make note of are: Choose your songs accordingly for (e.g. walking down the aisle, father/daughter dance, the bouquet or garter toss) and which moments simply require background music (e.g. during the reception meal).
- Always ensure that you have given clear instructions to your live band, DJ or whoever else is responsible for your wedding music so that both they and you know what music is being played at what time during your wedding day.
For more detailed advice on choosing your wedding songs click here.
I've done some research online and I hope the following websites will help you in your process of choosing music for your special day.
♫ OurWeddingSongs.com
♫ WedAlert.com
♫ WeddingMusicCentral.com
Look out for the article within this website on “How to avoid the 3 biggest wedding mistakes most couples make with wedding music” by Gloria Sklerov and Barbara Rothstein. This is a must read!
♫ Wedj.com
Send me an email if you need help with your wedding day plans. tdazzo@gmail.com